The Pygmalion Effect and Unrealised Expectations

I believe that what you think becomes your reality. I also
believe that children are taught what to think about themselves by us, and we
are not that good at it ourselves. What if we saw self esteem as our number one
priority? What if we taught our children that anything was possible if we just
believed? What if we learnt that lesson for ourselves?

I recently watched Jim Carey on a Graham Norton show
talking about being a ‘manifestor’ and hearing his example of writing a cheque
out to himself only to be earning that amount of money before the date arrived
that was written on that fake cheque. I really do believe that what we think
about drives us to the actions that make what we think about become a reality.
What if we did this for our children? Who would care that they weren’t there yet
if we could lay the path to getting there.

If the truth were to be told I would have to say that My
Fair Lady is one of my all time favourite plays and movies. I just love the
before and after, any dramatic change from drab to fab, from dusty to sparkling
(remembering the old Mr Min advert), from not good enough to completely
accepted. For me it is not about fitting in or living up, but rather it is
about how with a lot of effort and believing, that we can completely change
ourselves.

In the context of education I am wary, not because I don’t
think it can happen, because it most certainly can happen, but because I feel a
sense that reality is the measure and it somehow outweighs the beauty of the
possibilities and potential we need to believe in. There are so many studies
showing that how we treat our children, what we expect of them and how we teach
them to think about themselves impacts directly on their academic (and life)
success. So why the  heavy weight of reality? Do parents want the truth rather
than the possibilities, do they need it, do they need both?

Perhaps we are cautious of the untold stories, the failed
attempts, the ones that don’t make it into books or onto the movies screens. We
hear tales of years of therapy that have made no difference or teachers that
have failed to pick up problems early enough. We hear of therapists and schools
holding onto kids for commercial reasons. We hear of lost causes.

In the face of skepticism and guarding against the possible
inability to develop a child as much as was expected or wished for, we forge
forward. Using everything we have to create a place where believing is
powerful. We look for success, we hunt for feelings of competence, we begin
where they are and we will them forward. If we treat them as if they are
worthwhile, they will become worthwhile. If we treat them as if they are
achievers, they will become achievers.

Author: Lauren Edmunds – Copyright

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1 thought on “The Pygmalion Effect and Unrealised Expectations”

  1. I neеd to to thаnk you for this exceⅼlent гead!!
    I certainly enjoyed every bit of it. I’ve got you bookmarked to look at new things you post…

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